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"GET IT TOGETHER!"--MO       October 1971       LTA No.123

       [EDITED: "HomeARC note (9/98): The current Charter declares the Family's principles, policies and attitudes regarding relationships, sex and marriage."]

(Transcript of taped exhortation)

       1. YOU LOVE JESUS? Then why don't you act like it? Any idiot can wander around the grounds yelling and quoting! It's fairly sure that the harder they yell the louder they fall! Sometimes I think the screamers are just on a big pride trip trying to get attention! Most of the greatest saints I know were little people who just did what they thought should be done--without you hearing about it or even knowing they were around! But they were always around when you needed them. They were always there when you needed them. Always quick to jump. Always willing to see a need and respond--like the person who gave me this chair!--Probably their own. He didn't need to scream to get your attention, but he just quietly passed it down!
       2. GOD WAS ABLE TO DO SOME OF THE GREATEST THINGS when there was complete silence in the Heavens for half an hour. Some of us have the reputation for being loudmouths--including myself. But how does your religion work when you are lying in bed quietly with your wife? How does it work when you're sitting at the table with her? You who are in tune with the Spirit during these long pauses will be hearing from the Spirit of God during these pauses, the right answers, and you who are hearing the wrong answers, from the Devil--depending upon which spirit you are in tune with! Amen?
       3. HOW LONG HAS IT BEEN, BOYS, SINCE YOU COMMUNICATED WITH YOUR WIFE? What kind of communication, girls, do you have with your husband? If your communication with God is good, you will have excellent communication with your husband, because God is the central exchange that makes the connection. Without good communication with you Lord there cannot be much good communication between you. Because without good communication with God, you will be a God-damn, self-righteous, stuck on yourself, critical pig!
       4. HOW LONG HAS IT BEEN, FELLOWS, SINCE YOU TRIED TO DO SOMETHING NICE, considerate, kind, for your wife?--Something unselfish--something she wouldn't even notice--something you might not even get the credit for--because you love her! That means real love--the kind that only God can give.--Because you are concerned about her welfare, and her happiness, and her feelings. How long has it been for you girls? How long has it been since you have been unselfish for your husbands? That you did something for him that you didn't expect to get anything out of yourself? Hmm? How long's it been?
       5. I KNOW SOME PEOPLE HERE THAT SERVE UNSELFISHLY, sacrificially, utterly giving themselves to the utmost and yet never getting the credit for it, and are virtually unknown! But God has a great big Book, and it's known to Him, and He's writing it all down! And He'll reward everyone according to his works--whether they be good, or whether they be evil. What do you think you deserve? I know people you can walk all over, then just bawl them out for mistakes--some they didn't even make--and they will still say: "I'm sorry, forgive me for having lived." Luke 17:10.
       6. YOU ARE TOO DAMN STUCK ON YOURSELVES! That's what your problem is! You're thinking you are too much of a hero. For the benefit of you new revolutionaries, we don't have sessions like this every night. It's a pity we don't, because then we could really trim this group down to a Gideon's Band. When we had 50 people, I said: "we've got too many people and we've got to get rid of a few." Twenty-five left in the next week!
       7. THIS IS NO DAMN VACATION! This is for real! [DELETED] We are in a fight to the finish! We're not playing games (Ecc.8:8). The only way you're going to get out of this war is through the grave or through the Coming of the Lord! To hear some of you, you would think you could fight this war with your own fists, carnal weapons of war, or your voice! See who can yell the loudest! I can yell louder than most of you! God can use your voice, but most of all He wants your spirit, because our weapons are not carnal weapons, or your fists!
       8. NOR ARE WORDS LIKE SHIT, DAMN, FUCK, NECESSARILY MORE POWERFUL! They are not necessarily part of every sentence. You can use this kind of language to show that damn System that your are not a part of it!--That Hell of a Christianity! But around people who don't understand that kind of language you had better keep your big mouth shut! The Apostle Paul said, "I became all things to all men in order that I might win some." To win some you must be winsome!
       9. YOU MUST ESTABLISH POINTS OF CONTACT--Rapport! There must be some things in common in order for people to communicate. If it takes fuck, damn, shit, to get the point across--Use it! If it takes sweeter language, even church language, use that!--If you are trying to win them! But if you are trying to blast them away, then use fuck, damn, shit! But if not, then you are just going to make them mad and convince them you are not a Christian! But if you use churchy platitudes to the poor, lost, wandering hippies, they will puke! For God's sake, use the language that will win them! Don't just blast the Hell out of them, but get the Heaven into them!
       10. WHAT KIND OF LANGUAGE DO YOU USE WITH YOUR WIFE? That all depends on what you are trying to do! Damn the System, fuck the whore!--But do you lie down with your husband and say the same thing? You have been treating him just like the System--as if he were the Whore! You'd better be honest with yourselves! He that is not honest with himself cannot be honest with anyone else!
       11. WE GET THE KIND OF GOVERNMENT WE DESERVE! A corrupt people get a corrupt government! A self-righteous hypocritical people get the same kind of government! We are not fighting the government! If you are, you better take a second look because you're way out in left field! Somebody took the latest Time Magazine and drew a little Hitlerian mustache on Agnew!--Never saw two people look so much alike! I'm not going to fight him with the kind of weapons he uses! If anyone disagrees, they call it a plot! Especially if they have long hair or beards--doesn't matter, just shoot them up! I haven't got enough power, enough guns to fight back! I just pray--and He'll take care of it! God's got bigger guns than they have and He'll take care of it pretty soon!
       12. WHEN YOU'RE OUT DAMNING THE CHURCHES and damning Moloch, you feel very satisfied with yourselves! You come home with the same attitude toward your wife!--And you feel real self-righteous because you've shown how much better you are than the rest of the world! Do you come home with the same attitude toward your husband or wife? When was the last time you did something loving for them? (Luke 6:38 and Gal.6:7!)
       13. WOULD YOU LIKE MY JOB? Feeding and clothing all these people and not knowing where it's coming from! I like my back against the wall because that's when I start fighting! If you don't have your back against the wall, you better watch out because you might get a bullet in your back! How have you been treating her lately, Boys? Have you been loving her with the kind of love that Jesus has? Have you been treating her like Jesus does?
       14. DON'T BE SO DAMN SURE THAT THERE IS GOING TO BE A REVOLUTION FIRST! Usually a Reaction comes first! Repression: Fascism, Hitlerianism, Nazism--a dictatorship of the rich!--To control the rioting groups! It'll be done in the name of security! Thousands of crimes have been committed in that name! We are not playing games! This is going to cost you self-sacrifice, self-denial, persecution!--Because you love Jesus and not yourself! How can you say you love God and a soul you haven't seen, when you can't love your wife or husband whom you have seen!--(1John 4:20-21).
       15. A HARD-RIGHT REACTION is what will precipitate the Revolution! Things will get rough for dissenters. Much like Hitlerian Germany--much like totalitarian government! And we will be caught in the middle! We don't like the anti-Christ attitude of the Communists or the Fascists. We are living and teaching to share all things like the Communists, yet we are getting it out of the Bible--the supposed book of the church people. In a way, we are caught between the Devil and the deep blue sea. We are in a Hell of a spot! There's only one way to go--and that's up!
       16. SOME OF YOU DON'T KNOW WHO I AM! I don't care! It doesn't make that much difference as long as you know who Jesus is! If anyone wants to know who started this group, or they ask you to take them to your leader: Take them to Jesus! Tell them to get down on their knees! We've got enough to fight! We have got enough enemies without you fighting with your wife or husband, with your brother or your sister! [DELETED]

       18. THAT'S WHAT I CAME DOWN TO TALK TO ALL OF YOU ABOUT; the rest is thrown in for extras! [DELETED] How many of you wives submit yourselves as the True Church submits herself to Christ? Have you been submitting yourself to him like Jesus? He represents Jesus to you! He's an illustration of Jesus!
       19. WATCH OUT FOR THE SITUATION WHERE THERE'S NO PARALLEL IN THE SPIRITUAL for your actions in the realm of the physical! In the church of Jesus Christ there is no male or female! Your damn sex organs don't mean a thing to God! In the operation of the spiritual gifts there is true equality for women! He promised to pour out His Spirit upon His sons and daughters! But when it comes to the operation of sex and the home and the husband/wife relationship, God has made it very clear who's the boss!
       20. DO YOU BELIEVE THE BIBLE? Then why don't you do it! You're breaking the commandment of God everytime you refuse! You don't have to feel like it--but it would be better if you did! He doesn't have to be romantic--but it would be better if he was! But you better submit! How are we going to have a Revolution for Jesus if you can't even love your husband or wife, your brothers or sisters, whom you have seen!
       21. [DELETED] Do you hear that Betty, Gail, Connie, Nancy, Claudia, Kathy? I am the final troubleshooter! God will use us, as your parents in the Lord! We went over some of these passages when you got married and you were asked if you believed them: Not good for a man to be alone ... a virtuous woman is a crown to her husband ... the marriage bed is undefiled!
       22. THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH YOUR HUSBAND FUCKING YOU, GIRLS! It won't hurt your saintliness! But it will shoot holes in your ego and in your pride! "Benevolence"--Bene volence: good moving!--Begins with you guys!--Means some lovemaking and some old-fashioned necking and kissing! Start if off with some good moving lovemaking! Some of you guys ride her like a horse!--Get on and get off! No wonder she does some bucking!
       23. GOOD LOVEMAKING BEGINS WITH TRUE LOVE. The best teacher is God! Begin with that point (true love), and maybe she will accept the other point! "Render unto the wife due bene-volence." Sometimes you get more out of it than you put in. They're being born all over the place! Praise God! Nobody wants to make love to a corpse or ride a polished log! Give him some cooperation! Or are you just thinking of your own selfish interests? I told one brother: "One way or the other you're going to have a better wife!" I'll say the same thing to you now, Girls: One way or the other, your husband is going to have a better wife!
       24. YOU HAVE THE SWEETEST, HUMBLEST HUSBANDS AROUND, because they are the only ones who will put up with you! (1Cor.7:15). If your wife won't listen to you, take some friends to talk to her. [DELETED]
       25. BUT MARRIAGE IS A LOT MORE THAN JUST FUCKING! There's a higher love--Agape! Eros is a small part of it. But breakdown of eros means there is something wrong with philos or agape. [DELETED] You are to honour your husband and give reverence unto him. That's a commandment of God! Are you afraid of him?--You should be! It doesn't say, provided he fits my idea of a hero, or provided he treats me the way I want to be treated! It says obey because he is the likeness of God to you! Your position is that of the Church to Christ! Is that clear? If you don't start doing better real fast, then God will start doing better for him! (Deut.24:1).
       26. JESUS MAKES IT HARDER IN THE NEW TESTAMENT: More rigid--also more love.--Can only divorce for fornication or adultery. She's getting some loving elsewhere--and loving herself. Fucking herself and polluting her soul by going after other gods. If you're not performing according to Scripture, we'll be rough on you in order to get some of the pride out of you and save your soul! Been cheating on your husband?--You do so by denying him his privileges. Respect that. When you want to pray, you have to agree together! If you decide to fast and become holy--both sides have to agree! Are you so holy and sanctimonious that you feel right in withholding your body from your husband?--That's enough to make any man enraged!--Denying God and breaking commandments of Christ, when you withhold your body from your husband! [DELETED]
       28. YOU WERE MADE TO BE A HELPMEET: to help his meat! "Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands." That means that you do whatever he wants! Excluding sexual perversions--because it is unhealthy. It is better to marry than to burn! Better to let him marry you nightly than to make him burn! Watch out for sexual perversions; they are unhealthy and unscriptural, but as far as plain old-fashioned fucking--there's no law against it! There's nothing wrong with your body. God made it to feel that way!
       29. WIVES, SUBMIT YOURSELVES UNTO YOUR HUSBANDS AS UNTO THE LORD. Have you been doing that? For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the Head of the Church. Are you treating him like Christ? Let them do what they will, they sin not. Even as Christ has loved the Church, husbands love your wives. Therefore, as the Church is subject unto Christ, let the wives be subject unto their own husbands"--Because he is the type of Christ as you are the type of the Church.
       30. BOYS, DO YOU LOVE HER AS CHRIST LOVES YOU? Are you showing her the kind of love that Jesus shows the Church?--Kindly, protective, considerate, loving, willing to come down from your lofty state and make simple love! Are you treating her like Jesus treats the Church? Then maybe that's why she's not behaving as the Church should! Do you give yourself for her, even as Christ gave Himself for the Church?
       31. THAT'S THE FIRST BAD SIGN: when husband and wife don't sit together!--If you don't talk together and share together and tell each other everything--I mean everything! Between husband and wife, there should be no secrets; there should be communications! Love her as much as you love your own body! Are you as good to your wife as to yourself? I don't mean just fucking! "Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that (she) should do to you, do ye even so to (her)." That is not always easy! You would like them to do it for you, so you will do it for them! Are you doing it boys? Well then, maybe it isn't only the wife's fault!
       32. IT USUALLY TAKES TWO TO MAKE A FIGHT! Usually both sides are to blame! Do you try to make her happy? She is to encourage and inspire you! Do you do that for her? I never fucked my wife without thanking her and praising the Lord at the same time! You don't even have the class to say thank you to her!
       33. --AND COMPLIMENT HER! Tell her she's beautiful and she'll be beautiful! Tell her she's wonderful and she'll be wonderful! He that loveth his wife, loveth himself! "No man ever hated his own flesh." You may not like her, but you still have to lover her! She may be a hell of a fool, but you have still got to love her! She may be as ugly as a mud fence, but you're still going to love her!
       34. GOD BLESS YOU! I LOVE YOU! That's why I'm spanking you, because I love you! Do you cherish her, Boys, even as the Church! If you're not getting much out of it, it may be because you're not putting much into it! It may not be 50/50, but it should be at least 60/40! Do you love her even as yourself? Maybe, if you gave her a little more love like you give yourself, she would love you more!
       35. AND THE "WIVES SHOULD REVERENCE THEIR HUSBANDS." Sara called her husband "Lord!" If you don't like this, get the hell out of here, because this is from the Bible!--Our Revolutionary Handbook! The only reason it hasn't caused a Revolution until now is because no one has followed it closely all the way!
       36. MARRIAGE IS A SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP, or else you could simply have stayed good friends! Marriage is a sharing of all things! It is the most satisfying, most strengthening, and most lasting relationship on this earth! You share the parts of your body as well as your thoughts! There must be something wrong with your communication with Jesus, or else you would love each other, even though you are married! You better go home and really show her that you love her, or we will hear about it! This is no namby-pamby church game! This is an Army! You say you love your husband--you may have to show it to me! So let's not hear any more reports like this! Amen?--God bless you!--Now, get it together--now!--Or else!
       37. P.S. DON'T TELL US YOUR ASTROLOGICAL SIGNS AREN'T COMPATIBLE, EITHER! Jesus is greater than your signs and can overrule all of that--so don't get hung up on the Zodiac! The influence of the stars is a part of His physical Creation and can be completely overruled and overcome by the spiritual power of His Spirit, as the spirit in Daniel was found ten times better than that of the astrologers! We give you guys an inch and you take a mile! The Lord can't trust some of you with the least bit of freedom! Too much freedom can become bondage, like daily horoscopes! You'll do better reading your Bible than the star guide--that was only suggested as a supplement to help you understand God's natural Creation! "Look at the way He made us!" Hallelujah!
       38. THE STARS OBVIOUSLY AFFECT OUR NATURAL PERSONALITIES and even seem to influence some events, but this is a purely natural part of God's physical Creation, like the sun and the moon and the planets influence our lives with heat, photosynthesis, plant life, light, the earth's orbit, tides, menstrual periods, etc. The astral bodies affect and influence the natural man and mind. They are God's system of controls of normal life and the balance of nature. They can even guide history unless the Lord overrules, but when people get to paying more attention to the Creation rather than the Creator, God condemns it! You, by your own natural efforts, can strengthen or weaken your natural traits, God-ordained by the stars, but only God can completely transform your personality in defiance of these natural influences! "Be not conformed to this world, but be ye transformed by the renewing of you mind!" "Ye must be born again!" "Ye are new creatures in Christ Jesus!" A new birthday! PTL!

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