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In Reply to: Re: My 2 cents Re: Spanking little kids posted by Holon on November 16, 2008 at 07:03:21:
As much as I believe there are always viable alternatives to spanking, even in the situations you mentioned, I can actually relate to what you subscribe to, far better than the "swatting as a lifestyle" someone advocated -- totally normal and daily part of raising a child," oh, but just as long as it's "not spanking."
When spanking is such a rare occurence that people can count the number of times it has happened on less than one hand, that's a different thing. I just polled my girlfriend about spanking. She was brought up in a country where there are no laws against it as long as it isn't outright abuse. She was brought up in a loving family which came with its own share of problems, but things were always talked about, disagreements were discussed openly. Of course there was even anger and frustration sometimes. But there was always trust (earned, not demanded), and she always knew she was on the "same side" as her parents, and they never became the enemy she had to rebel against or retaliate for the times they wilfully hurt her. The only time she was ever slapped was for calling her father an "asshole" when she was about 12 and was trying to be cool in front of her friends.
