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In Reply to: Re: Spanking little kids posted by CB on October 30, 2008 at 10:41:57:
Ok most of you probably dont know me I havent been on this website in about 7 years. My parents are Kim and Karen aka Nathan and Daystar.
Anyhow I am a 33 y/o second gen.ex and have 4 wonderful children 14,12 & almost 8 year old twins.
I always said if I ever had children I would not spank them. My father wasnt much into spanking I think I can only remember 1 time, my mother, a few more times but I was never abused in that way by my parents and I was a good child and did as I was told. If I was ever spanked by anyone else in the family I dont remember it.
But I did wittness it alot in the family and I believed it was wrong and swore I would not do it.
However, I have spanked all my children some more than others but only with my hand. It is and was ( I dont spank the teenagers now) a very rare accurance though. If they got spanked it was for doing something that could really hurt them such as running in the street, sticking things in the toaster, leaving the house by themselves, pushing there brother down the stair case or going out the second story window and walking on the roof of the first floor ect... And because the spankings didnt happen much and were only for very serious things they ment much more. And when they ever got spanked, they knew it was very serious what they were doing.
I would rather spank my child in hopes that they never do that again than looses a child from them not understanding real danger.And children just dont get what real danger is.
BTW, all the insidents listed above have actuaily happened but were never repeated!
I have never spanked a child for crying or acting out even though I may have wanted to. It is my personal belief that this situation would not call for it.
I have 3 boys and they never really had a problem with throwing tantrums, my Daughter on the other hand a whole different story.
She will be 13 in june and still will have a freak out moment from time to time. When she was little and would refuse to go to bed I would just let her carry on and ignore it and when she saw she wasnt getting any attention for it , she would eventuaily stop. When she does it now I just make her feel foolish, by saying things like " Now is there something wrong with you? Do Dad and I need to take to to the Dr. to help you with this. Normal people dont act this way, maybe we should call someone." or " you know there are places where they help people who behave like this" ect.. she will stop shortly after this and will appoligze most of the time for being so hysterical.
But every child is different. And something that works for one wont work for another.
