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In Reply to: Re: From the mother's perspective posted by Jo on December 09, 2005 at 16:05:24:
Jo- Why would you have waited to make this claim that I was in the "main room" when this incident of child beating occurred until today? If I had ever witnessed a child being beat with a belt, I could have used that in the custody battle for my daughters, not to mention what I would've liked to personally do to the perp. You state that you were in closer proximity to this child than I was, yet you didn't intervene? You have the name of this individual that you have identified as the "harsh disciplinarian. I would love to follow up on this individual. If you believe that this "harsh disciplinarian" is no longer out of line, then that's good enough for me. But do you know that for sure? Has this person been in parenting classes, domestic violence classes, etc.?
I lived with many people over thirty years ago that I don't remember, including you, (that is why I asked you to send me a photo of yourself in January), and I never heard the term "harsh disciplinarian" in reference to anyone in Stockholm. I don't remember this incident at all, and here is where substantiating the claim would be of immense importance- at least to me. You know the name of the person who did this. You can email the name privately to me. I can talk with this person, if I can contact them. I have never claimed that I was "spotless"- where did you get that from? I have never critized your help in the efforts to expose TFI. I have never said that my way is "better." How could I know what the "best" way is? The only way I know is my way -from my perspective. I think that you may have made some assumptions about me and "my way" that just aren't true. I never said getting into the media was better than healing with your family. Your family should come first. I don't, in fact, have the resources (money & time) to do all this, that's precisely why I have asked for help- especially with situations like Charles Allen. I have spent my own money, and sadly, I haven't had any contributions, excepting my family. But I hope to change that. I don't expect the exer communities to send money. I ask, but I don't expect. I will find it, however.
You bring up a very good subject about helping mothers leave TFI. I believe that all kinds of resources should be available to them when they leave. That is precisely why I want to raise funds. There are so many good things that could be done. But all of this takes big money contributors. Part of my working with the media is to reach that goal.
Here's where some may think I'm really crazy- but I believe that there are plenty of sources within the domain of the general public that can, and will, be more than willing to help so that a mother, like you were when you wanted to leave TFI, can access the resources to leave without a struggle. But to get that public to act, they would first have to be made aware. This, in fact, touches on the major project under way with my immediate family at this time, and I will leave it for the public launching for more details.
