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In Reply to: coming forward posted by Rocky on August 03, 2003 at 16:44:14:
Rocky, I hope you can ease up on yourself some. I think (just speculating here) that one reason you are so hard on yourself is because of what you endured in your own childhood. Looking back with the scales off our eyes, it is easy to see what the family was all really about. But in the middle of it, there was so much constant work, fear, control that it took a lot to leap out of that "fire" of the family into the (oftentimes) frying pan of life in the real world.
There comes a time that self-forgiveness, for anything you perceived to have done wrong personally, can occur and imo, I see us all as survivors of a terrible wreck. And all deserving that healing.
You sound real down and discouraged. I know that you also have done a great deal of work with survivors and youth and that is very commendable. I hope you gain more peace of mind because you are so very worth it.
There are a few that are in the fam. and probably some also who have left that have no capacity for conscience regarding things they participated in, looking back.
I hope the best for you Rocky!
