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In Reply to: It's sad posted by Texas Ray on April 25, 2002 at 07:53:33:
Yes, and once they cross that line, it's hard to step back over, because you're admitting you made a mistake. It was so hard to realize that I had blown it so bad, but once I did, and got it behind me, it was a freedom I had never known. Our kids are our treasure, and we have an obligation to them to spend as much time with them, let them know we're there for them, and make it easy for them to confide in us when they are faced with something like this. I joined to get away from my old life, and it worked great! I didn't realize what I was getting myself into, but what I was getting out of was worth anything to me at the time. That's why our kids need to know they are loved, and important to us. I by the grace of God will never make the mistake some of our parents made by not giving my kids the attention and love they need in the form of time. That's the best "cult-buster" I know of. I have been working side jobs to keep up with some projects, and it's strenuous for me, but I still hold my son's T-ball games as sacred, and sat in the rain in my work clothes the other day just to let him know his Daddy was behind him. I know that makes a difference to them, and will pay off in the long run. Sometimes I'm so tired I feel like collapsing in a heap at the end of the day, but my 2nd grader daughter needs me to do some research for her about who invented math so she can take it to school. My other daughter loves it when I sit down with her while she practices piano, and believe me, there are a thousand other things I can think of to do, but at that time, that is the most important, and will continue to be as long as I can muster the strength to be there for them. I can already see the effects of them feeling secure in the things they say and do, and let me tell you, it's gratifying. Just a few thoughts on the subject.
