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In Reply to: As a parent, would you let your child join the F.? posted by Acheick on April 24, 2002 at 19:33:00:
NewDayNews Crossfire
Sometimes it's not what they're saying at all
Posted By: A parent (not Cathy)
Date: Thursday, 25 April 2002, at 1:16 p.m.
In Response To: Re: My son is reading all the posts Right Now. (Barney)
> Do you know anything about Romania.He got
> Romania in his mind and tickets also. I got
> your point.What do you mean by being so
> close? be more specific. look at crossfire,
> but is there anything else.this month 4
> people that left is coming to Laurel Home
> and they will be moving on positively at
> their own pace. Barney
Did you ever think you might be missing the whole point, that he just wants to get away from home and go to a country of his liking for an adventure, and that the Family is just an excuse?
What is your relationship with him like? My impression is that you spread yourself out so thin that you hardly have time for any one thing. Perhaps he feels a lack of attention, with you prioritizing other people all the time, and wants your attention? Maybe this is his way of saying, you pay so much attention to the Family that he is going to join just to get your attention? Perhaps he is saying that you don't have time for your family?
Please don't think I am accusing you of anything. I am relating what is happening to what happened in my own life. I had no sense of home just because my mother took what little semblance of a home we did have, and share it to other strangers by renting out rooms. It got to where she rented out all the rooms, and I had no bedroom or even a bed left for me. At the time I thought I would be heroic and sacrificial and help out for the cause (lack of $), but it all took its toll on me in a way I didn't understand. It basically led to my making very poor decisions later on as a young adult.
