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In Reply to: To Sara posted by goth88 on November 08, 2002 at 12:59:06:
Hey, thank you for your post.
I have been out since early 1997. Leaving was a bit of a joke because I went from controlling homes (it was always my luck to find homes with overcontrolling "aunties") to an ex member father who thought that his children should obey without questioning and treat him as we had when we were little...even though I and my brothers were 17 and over.
To make a long story short, I basically had to find my own support system as neither of my parents want to discuss anything.
I am doing well now...took me awhile to catch up as far as prioritys go.
I'm now married to a non ex member who is pretty understanding. We are celebrating our first anniversary later this month.
As far as your "mending fences" with the SG's...from what I've seen...some will come to accept the FGA's, while others will continue to place blame. It's hard to say. Basically, all I can say on that point is to try to be patient. Let them come to a sort of peace within themselves, and leave it at that. I think that pushing could do more harm than good...but this is just my take on it.
I do know that the majority of people on this site would be more than happy to help when possible. And thank you all for that! I've seen different posts on shelters, help groups and the such, which is really great. Keep it up and they will come :-). I do think that some sort of scholarship information would be helpful. Someone over on M.O. said something about AFF which is a fund for "cult kids"...or something...I tried looking but then got confused.
But anywho...this is longer than I had anticipated...sorry about that.
