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In Reply to: Associating with Family Members posted by Jojo on November 07, 2002 at 16:50:01:
I wasn't going to get into this subject because I think it is a personal matter but I will answer it as such. After all, that is what you ask, our opinion.
Not long ago I was approached via email by somebody I knew and it wasn't clear what her purpose was. I can think many scenarios where I would like to meet certain people. I would also like to know about others even though I may not necessarily want to meet them. Curiosity is there about old friends, and it is not idle curiosity but real and sincere interest to know about them.
I answered this person and never heard back from her anymore. My answer was not particularly bad but I stated my current position about the evil teachings of the Family. We know how the Family dislikes criticism so I took that she had been directed to write to me and feel out where I stand. Why would she do that? Who knows but I am sure the Family leadership doesn't do anything without a motivation to take advantage.
So why would I meet up with them? Interest alone but right now it is not strong enough for me to justify it. This is where the personal situation comes in. Other people have reasons to justify that.
But regardless of your motivations, they will use that contact to try to gain control over you. Are you strong enough? You will have to decide that. I could never say that I would never meet up with Family members, I am not that silly. Things change, reasons, events and motivations. But if I ever do I will have to have very clear what I intent to accomplish because the leadership in the Family always has an agenda when meeting people, especially exmembers. We all know that.
I can see many reason why I would like to re-connect with ex-friends in the Family but I am afraid the trust will not be there as far as my emotional involvement with them and I know they will puch hard to draw me into that state of "being loved". You have to ask yourself if you can handle that. Even if you want that.
I think you already know the answer to your last 2 questions. The Family always has a reason to want to meet you. This time, if you allow yourself to be deceived and sucked in... well. But even then, it is your life and you have the right to do whatever you please.
