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In Reply to: Here is more on what she said. posted by jo on November 07, 2002 at 17:51:48:
I think it is important for you to know that when I did speak to my kids, i first acknowledged their pain without giving reasons why. A person in pain does not need excuses. That acknowledgement is very important. Many SGAs, SGs are separated from family who are still in the "Fam" cult, and get further discounted. In reality many of us, yes I say US, that suffered abuses will not get acknowledgement from their perpetrators (of sexual, physical, emotional, etc. abuses.) A person still within the family will have to view you from a family viewpoint. This is painful to them also unless they are complete sociopaths like the leaders and founders of the group. So I do not discount your pain. I just don't discount that of FGA's either. I would like to see healing for all. I don't buy that it was a "choice" to look away. But coming to grips with what was done and acknowledging it is only possible after getting out of the Family mindset and past the denial. What do you think about this?
