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In Reply to: Thank you posted by No Name on October 23, 2002 at 05:35:44:
It is interesting to me that you refer to yourself in the US FG label. Does that mean you are first generation? Over and over I see a few "FGs" flagellating themselves over having "willingly joined" the cult for bad reasons so its all their (our) fault. Well you are entitled to your own opinion. Frankly, I asked a question the other day as to whether or not any "SGs" had availed themselves of orgs like Covenant House. No one answered. I can tell you that "FGs" can't speak for "SGs" or vice versa. I know why I joined and I did not know what it was until after I got OUT. And when I got OUT there were no orgs. that I knew of that could help. I have helped kids (not ex-Fam, but street kids) get into local facilities that help them get their lives together. Some stayed and utilized it, others couldn't take the necessary structure. If I were to take anyone into my apt., there would have to be structure. Not family crap or unwanted religion, but some rules and boundaries like any normal family would have. And there would be some that could take that and utilize it and others that wouldn't be able to take that necessary structure either. But in all reality, I live in a small place, with 2 adult and 2 large dogs. I doubt that anyone would want to stay in my place. So I would best be able to support someone who is utilizing one of the many orgs that provide therapy, medical asst., housing, GED, job search etc. that are out there. Now, if you, "No Name", as "FG" want to flagellate yourself be my guest, but cut out the "US" in "FG". It is your opinion, not mine. And by the way, the only way I lump all together is in that we are all survivors of that cult. What needs we have for support, therapy, etc. DO VARY. I did NOT CHOOSE to join a cult! When most "FGs" joined, the term "cult" in relation to mind manipulative coercive movements did not even exist yet. I and MANY FGs have had way too much pain in my own life to call it any less than what SGs experience(d). Yes there is a difference being born into the cult. If my kids blamed me I would have to answer to them. THEY DON'T. And as "SGs" who never had to go to victor camps and got out when they were 7,8, and 9 yrs old they don't have those issues to sort out. I think there needs to be much more examination into what kept people in the family for years and years, including SGs that are still in and adults now. What kept us in?
