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In Reply to: Re: relationships posted by Stan Landers on September 18, 2002 at 12:55:33:
If we learned nothing from Soc 101 it’s to have a listening ear. That’s what people need, it’s the best therapy. Nay, we may not have all the answers, but we have been around the block and back and nothing surprises us.
It’s a good point you bring up, just because we leave the F. does not ensure our lives will now be all hearts, roses and flowers. Oh, contrare. The stumbling-blocks, hurdles, roadblocks and people hurting each other are still there, they are a constant. Still, we left with our integrity and our freedom of thought, our individuality and that is priceless. No one can take that from us again because we are now the more wiser.
Relationships are a deep issue, with or without F. baggage. But recognizing what that baggage is and what to do about it is a huge step. Sure, it’s the past and we want to move on, start anew, start fresh, but the baggage nags at us. We have to recognize what it is and when it pops up.
They say that divorce (and add severing a long term committed relationship in that league) is like experiencing a death of a loved one and takes about a year to recover from. It’s not an easy road, unfortunately. Once, when I had to leave someone behind who was very dear to my heart, I kept asking people when the hurt would subside. No one had an answer. I wasn’t prepared for the aftermath of that. Now I understand there is no easy way out.
