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In Reply to: Re: stages/still VERY ANGRY, for one... posted by Goth88 on August 04, 2002 at 09:14:42:
That was not my intention. There certainly is no time period for grieving. But I guess what I was thinking of was in relation to what someone said (maybe Ray) about going right into a "normal" life and never having experienced the other aspects of grieving and maybe that is why different posts receive more reactive responses than others. I would never say to anyone that it should ever take them only a few months to get over being angry! What I said, or meant to say, was that you CAN get caught in a stage and never move from there, and THAT is dysfunctional grieving (no time line given), which can prolong the healing. It took me years to get through all that I went through, and even now, once in a while I will think back and the tears start flowing - but it doesn't have the hold on me that it used to. You certainly, with all you have gone through, have every right to feel the way you do. When I first came to the boards a few years ago, it was months that I was on an emotional rollercoaster, and I wasn't always pleasant, either, as I'm sure some here would be willing to tell you, haha!
I do know Ray personally, and I think his intentions are to be most helpful. Personally, I find them very helpful to me, so I appreciate his posts. It is very helpful to me to hear how other people made it through all these things, and it helps to validate my own feelings, that it's not just me.
Again, you know that I was not trying to point a finger at anyone or make you feel bad. Just adding my 2 cents, which often gets me in trouble. I am sorry if I made you feel bad.
