Posted by Laura on August 09, 2003 at 10:33:29
In Reply to: Re: How's your sex life? posted by sore and sorry on July 28, 2003 at 22:20:21:
1) Are you an FG or born into TF?
FG
(2) How long have you been out?
4 years
(3) How has your attitude toward sex changed since leaving (if at all)?
I have become much less uptight about it and enjoy it more.
(4) Did you consider your sex life healthy and normal while you were in TF?
Yes.
(5) How do you view your sex life in TF now that you have left?
During the FF, RNR days, I was too busy beng a home schooling mother and witnesser to have much of a sex life, oher than with my husband. He and I were not really well matched sexually but stayed together for many years because of a common love for our children. I am now divorced and have a wonderful man in my life for the last year or so who is also very very sexy, inventive, and loving, and now I see what I was missing!
(6) What difficulties (if any) did you experience with what TF taught or enforced regarding sex?
None. The overriding "lesson" I came away with from my 23 years in the Family is that sex is a wonderful gift of God when shared between loving, consenting adults.
(7) What difficulties (if any) have you experienced since leaving as a result of what TF taught or enforced regarding sex.
same answer as #6
(8) Was sex ever part of the motivation (be honest!) for your joining or staying in TF?
No. When I joined in France in 1976, there was no sex allowed whatsoever for singles. As I said above, I was never very involved in any of the FFing, etc. as I was just too busy with other things.
(9) Did you have any concerns that you would not be able to enjoy the sexual freedoms you had in TF if you left?
I have a great deal more sexual freedom now than I did in the Family. While "sharing" was encouraged, there were Soooo many rules and constraints on it that, in my experience, it rarely happened. And of course for the last 5-10 years or so I was in, sex was only allowed with other adult members of your own Home. Since most Homes were quite small at that time- maybe 6 adults, only half of which were of the opposite sex and probably none of them someone I "hit it off with"... once we divorced, I was basically celibate.