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Posted by CB on February 12, 2012 at 16:02:43
In Reply to: Re: Spanking kids can cause long-term damage -- Canada study posted by Pastor Don on February 08, 2012 at 17:11:29:
Different strokes for different folks, bro. My dad used to slap my face, and what I got from it was PTSD. I wouldn't say he beat me. He just assaulted my sense of dignity. My mother used to whip me on the legs with a switch--like Loretta Lynn's mom in Coal Miner's Daughter. I wouldn't say she beat me, either. But I never felt thankful for this discipline. I just felt homicidal rage. Nope, I'm definitely not a wuss.
I spanked my boys, but very seldom and it was probably what you're talking about. They played defensive ends on their HS football team, and they can take a heck of a lot of physical abuse and call it fun. There's nothing like testosterone for pain management. In any event, when I've talked to my adult children about those spankings, they've both said it was not a big deal. I think a lot depends on who the kid is. My boys were a pair of rough and tumble little bruisers, and it sometimes took a forceful hand to get them under control when they got wound up.
I still don't feel good about hitting them, even in a limited way, but it turns out I feel worse about it now than they do. I've worked with way too many abused kids whose parents have no idea how harsh their "spankings" really are.
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