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Posted by long time exer on December 15, 2011 at 17:43:19
In Reply to: Re: Speaking of 1984 posted by Farmer on December 13, 2011 at 21:42:43:
"Stockholm syndrome is a psychological phenomenon in which a captive identifies with and even cares for the captor in a desperate, usually unconscious act of self-preservation. It occurs in the most traumatic episodes, often hostage situations or kidnappings, and its effects frequently don't end when the period of captivity ends. Symptoms of Stockholm syndrome have also been identified in the slave/master relationship, in battered-spouse cases and in members of destructive cults."
This quote is from the link below:
It is widely recognized that Stockholm Syndrome symptoms are not only related to people who are taken by force, but also in battered spouse cases and detructive cults. That is because there was a real threat of death within the family for many people, in that if you held back information, income, even withheld sex, that God could squash you like a little bug for it. And then there were testimonies of what happened to people who 'backslid' or refused sex or whatever. Having been RAPED within the family, and also having believed that God could kill me or harm someone important to me for my resistance at times, and this is to say very little of my TF experience, I relate very much to this article. I know that for women and men, there was degradation, being "dealt with", being taught God was "love" and love was sex- even screwing a person who was ugly as a mud fence (or something like that Berg said women should do for Jesus) it wasn't about my lust for sex and abusing others that my experience was about.
In fact, a few years after getting out of TF, I went to a dr. for a check up as a requirement of a work assistance program and alone in the room with that doctor he stuck his whole fist inside of me and asked me if I was ever moslested as he was doing this. It was supposed to be a routine physical exam. Because of the abuse I have experienced in my life, I felt like something was very wrong with me and I was so uncomfortable with the exam and his question that I just said "I don't know" and he YELLED at me "What do you mean you don't know?" and I just froze and didn't say another word. I didn't recognize this as ABUSE at the time, after coming out of TF and my life before that. I joined as a teen with no awareness of what Berg was about. I am not saying "Oh poor me" but I am saying that PTSD and Stockholm syndrome symptoms are fairly common for cult survivors.
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