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In Reply to: Re: How to tell a child? posted by Rubbyne on September 20, 2009 at 14:01:00:
I am very sorry about this situation...also that I reply with a very "conservative" viewpoint.
I still believe in Christ...was once "mated" (25 years back) to an Indian disciple (woman)...then later lived in a patch-work-relationship with someone else...never being legally married.
I thought that to be very "sacrificial"/altruistic and required from the Lord of me...I wanted to do right/be good.
I don't advocate that lifestyle anymore...especially since I made an in depth Word-study of the Bible and the net 5 years ago.
Man and woman in marriage build for me a unit, which shouldn't be touched nor destroyed from any side during the lifetime of either one.My conviction...sorry if that is too "backward" for you.
I confess, that the need for single moms and dads is huge in the western hemisphere especially.I don't deny that at all.But to me the remedy is not to try to patch that up with personal love from an outsider....provided, there was a valid marriage or some marriage vows...my take.I probably am pretty much alone here with that point of view...if so, I wouldn't be bothered about it...also am not trying to push people into that frame of mind (mine)...simply voicing my opinion...though I doubt, whether it ranks under any help (appreciated)...as you put it.
Simply, I can somewhat relate to you, having had also "stepchildren"...it's quite a challenge for the mortal flesh to accept them as "your own flesh and blood"...can be thought as a task to master, to become more loving etc....however I am personally not advocating it anymore, as I stated before.
Wish you all the best...sincerely
