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In Reply to: Re: Pornography, sex and relationships posted by Questioning everything on October 21, 2008 at 22:45:57:
We had some very liberal attitudes in the group, and now that we've been out for years, I'd like to know how we've changed in regards to sex, pornography and partnerships.
Legitimate, good, needed questions, however I do think it would have seemed nicer (to me), if you had entered the whole "questionaire/survey" under your own handle at the board...would have been nicer also, if you had "broken the ice" a bit by telling your own view & not just expecting everybody else to do the first step...I'd call that politeness, as it is not a subject like who's the right presedential candidate or what's my diet...it's more intimate..if you know what I mean...
a) Does pornography bother you?
If my sources are right, then the root of porneia has etymologically to do with selling...it bothers me, that the quickest way to earn bigger money for beautiful woman is to sell their body & it seems many do that in many other spheres of big business anyway & that's also where crime enters...so at fault is for one the world of "man", the older generations too (for allowing, creating the circumstances) but also the light attitude of women.
b) What about nudity?
I used to practice very limited nudity before TF...in TF you know the stance...after TF, I think I should not flaunt what I have or don't have....neither do I go around & scold others for their (mis)behaviour,...it's not my responsibility
There is a nudist philosophy, that it's better for children, to see their parents in "full nature", that it'd be better for them later, to develop no phobias or tenseness etc. etc....I don't think, that those children become necessarily better human beings...it's one of those many lifestyles, approaches...
There are plenty of nude-beaches in Europe...it's very common, including bare breast sunbathing of woman of all! ages...I figure, that is now almost as common as anything else.As for sunbathing...I usually protect the skin from too much exposure to radiation...a suntan is not much of an attraction to me, rather not (I like naturally, ethnically "tanned" people)
c)Are you judgemental about people who have liberal attitudes towards sex?
what is judgemental?I have an opinion about them...is that what you mean?...& then yes, I think that the biblical perspective counts for me...meaning faithfulness...being one flesh doesn't allow any other view...but I don't preach fire and brimstone on the streets...I don't have any such calling.
d)Are you less into partner swapping and swinging?
I am not at all into that...I am against that...I don't have any partner & I am seeking none.
e)Are you more into fidelity, f) serial monogamy or g) lifelong coupling?
e) definetely...f) no, although that is what people get often into, even if they retain some faith...g) would be my thoughts
h)What do you think of threesomes now?
the arabs & africans have their opinions & other heathen have their lifestyle, in most countries I know of, it's legally not possible anyway to be married to more than one mate & finally my Christian stance is, that it's nothing or wouldn't be anything for me anyhow
i)And what do you make of things like jealousy - the emotion we weren't allowed to have?
One of the crazinesses of Berg...law of Berg...you forbid, what comes naturally... tsk...since fidelity is right to me, any misbehaviour on the mate's side causes some jealousy...unless it becomes beyond proportion...totally unreasonable...ungrounded
j)Are you faithful to your partner? (if you have one!)
doesn't apply anymore
k)How is sex different for you now, compared to when you were in the group?
doesn't apply anymore
