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In Reply to: Re: If I may posted by Reading on September 22, 2007 at 08:43:14:
I think I got that. I can understand the frustration JAQ must feel. Perhaps there is some comfort to be drawn by making sure those who participated, for whatever reasons, in an abusive system that caused so much pain and heartache (and worse!) should never be granted any path toward forgiveness or ever allowed a new start with their kids. Perhaps they should be made to suffer to whatever extent possible, regardless of the cost to innocent SG family members, or efforts to express regret and renunciation. It may even be just. I just don't see how it helps anyone.
I remember Berg used to threaten those considering leaving the group with the fear of being jailed by the IRS if you leave.( I was willing to risk it!) But I wonder how it helps folks who have come to regret living in the TFI delusion and begin to consider getting out, "switching sides" and trying to pick up the pieces of broken lives (particularly their own children's!) are regularly assured that regardless of anything they do they will be haunted until death and beyond by assurances they will never be allowed to try a get a fresh start.
Obviously, all of us who have come to understand the destructive nature of the group we gave so much of our lives to, WILL be haunted by the sorrows our involvement contributed to. No amount of improvement of circumstances for even our own children will ever erase that. But I think most people I know feel their greatest and primary responsibilty is to our own children. We all need to try and figure out ways to contribute to the efforts to prevent future abuses, and heal past ones, as much as we are able. Some do. At least try.
But if it seems that participating in discussion boards such as this will only guarantee more practical and emotional difficulties for one's own kids, and contribute little or nothing to any healing process, then it seems a little self defeating.
The mission statement on this site includes "to help current and ex members to process their past to move on and create a new future". Is this still a piece of what folks here hope to do? If so, how do they see this coming to pass?
My question to JAQ is if he/she sees any hope anywhere. and if so, how and where? (Maybe "IF I may" would offer his/her thoughts as well.)
Any way, good luck to you, "If I may" as well as to JAQ.
