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In Reply to: Re: Street cleaning posted by Xman on September 07, 2007 at 00:15:46:
When I use examples like paying back taxes or doing community service, I referencing how the System handles restitution for anti-social behavior. I'm not seriously suggesting this as a way for FGAs to make amends.
FGAs need to start making amends with their own kids and grandchildren, like you said. I agree that means becoming financially stable and responsible. If FGAs haven't made amends with people on exer websites who post their names as creeps and offenders--and this posting causes the FGA to lose a job or not get hired--then the FGA needs to take responsibility for those consequences. This isn't the same as trying to avoid the consequences. Taking responsibility means the FGA must be prepared to talk with employers up front about the baggage he's carrying. Just engaging in that level of transparency with someone in the System is making an amends and doing things differently to make up for past behavior.
The FGA can also ask the webmaster to remove his name, but going on about how he's being victimized by a public naming and shaming is NOT a demonstration of someone who has taken responsibility for the past. Saying something like, "I've lost a job because my name appeared on your website" does not demonstrate having made an amends. It's a consequence for past behavior and poor choices.
Making an amends (in the context of a website) means the SGA has written a public statement of apology to those he's offended. That statement would include a discussion of how the SGA intends to change, or has changed, as a consequence of his contrition over the past. Whether or not the webmaster removes the SGA's legal name is not in under the SGA's control, and obtaining this outcome is not a sufficient reason for making a public apology. Expressing contrition is the point of the exercise. What is on record is the fact that SGA made a public apology and statement of amends. That act of contrition becomes part of the total public record the SGA can discuss with an employer who wants to know about the past.
Returning to the System's perspective on this stuff: If what we're talking about regarding the SGA has to do with child abuse in any form, keep in mind what the System does to those who are accused and found guilty of this crime. Prison time, financial penalties, loss of employment, restriction from occupations involving children, loss of custody & visitation rights. In the case of convicted sex offenders, the post-prison penalties are even greater, including registration with local law enforcement as an offender and restrictions on where the person can live in the community. Given all this range of potential consequences as an outcome of System justice, being publically identified as a creep on an exer website is small potatoes.
