Bravo to the Sisters of Pommy Mommy!

It's starting to dawn on me that the sisters Celeste Jones, Kristina Jones & Juliana Buhring, who all share a Brit mum, are forging ahead with important & significant public disclosure about their life in TF.

I get a strong sense that one or more of the sisters read and post at this site.

You are brave women, and all the disclosure you've made to date has got to be taking a personal toll. Take care of yourselves--and each other.

As an FGA with serious old hippie credentials, I feel the need to say something additional: I also admire your mum, who might have made some bad decisions that messed up your lives, but in spite of that, also made some good decisions that have contributed to where you are today in your lives.

I was mostly Systemite Mom where raising my own children are concerned. Despite that, I still made some bad decisions that had a negative impact on their lives. I feel sad when I read articles and posts from SGAs that reflect the unresolved anger that so many offspring feel toward their parents, mom or dad. If you are fortunate to have children and grow old, you will one day discover that your babies have grown into adults. Then you will think about all the mistakes you made with your children and all the times when you said you'd do it different than your mother did it with you.

Hopefully, you made some improvements in child rearing over what you experienced growing up in TF. But if you're honest, you'll also admit to times when you made your own set of mistakes. If you're fortunate, your children will forgive those mistakes. It will help if you have the good grace to ask their forgiveness, even if your mistakes were relatively minor compared to what happened with your own parents.

And you might notice that even though you're not in TF, even though you're educated, even though you did the best you knew at the time and followed the rules of rational child-rearing to the best your ability--despite all this, you still made mistakes that had negative impacts on your children.

Sometimes I think this phenomenon of intergenerational transmission of hurt and pain is what religious people call "original sin."