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In Reply to: Re: Tio Bow Nakajima posted by poster on December 14, 2006 at 15:36:22:
You write "Where did I condemn Kevin for what he said?" I never said that you condemned Kevin. Don't put words in my mouth. Read my post again. When I refer to "your need to rush to judgment" in my previous post I am referring to your interpretation of what Kevin said. What I am saying is that I think you (and Farmer as well) have decided, without knowing for sure, what Kevin meant by the words and phrases he uses.
For example, in your latest post you say: "...is it really necessary to preach a sermon with your grief?" That is your interpetation of what he sayed, and personally, I think your judgment that it was a sermon is somewhat overblown. Imo, this was a father who just lost his son and who was struggling with the right words to say. I didn't see it in any way as a sermon.
I'm sure you and Farmer were not the only ones who wondered about some of Kevin's choice of words. I did too, but instead of commenting on that here I decided that questioning Kevin's motives at this time was not appropriate. I guess you do think it's appropriate, and that's your right.
My main point is that there are different ways to interpret Kevin's post. There is a reason he chose to post here, but I don't presume to know what that is, or where he is coming from. I just don't understand your apparent need to determine right away what his motives might be. Like I said before, why can't you just give him the benefit of the doubt for the moment? Who knows, maybe your suspicions are right, and waiting awhile won't change that. On the otherhand, if you're wrong, your haste only reflects badly on you. But that's just my opinion.
