noice...

my son steve moved out of home last weekend. hes 24. he took his time to find the right person to flat with - because he could. There was no pressure from me whatsoever. and when he finally did it was so right for him. i saw a young man leave the nest as a strong, confident, happy & well balanced gorgeous young man.
the night he left i sat alone in my house and

I thought about a number of things. yea i cried a lot the night he left - he was gone and i missed him. we have lived together for so long on our own and have lived so well together. but these are the things i thought of that stopped me feeling sad in a silly way:
he could have been just leaving TF now..(major head fk)
he may never have known me (his mum) he may have hated me with TF poison in his head (more head fk)
he has left the nest being totally normal, having completed a full education and with a ton of friends. good decent friends.

but the point im trying to make here i guess, is that im sooo grateful for the fact that my son never had to experience TF and all its horrors. he has enormous empathy for the kids (SGs) and knows how lucky he is to have been spared the filth that other sgs have had to endure. i wasnt thrilled that steven had to grow up without a dad, but hey, the alternative was not an option. i know i wasnt perfect but i have loved him and kept him safe with me & close to me ALWAYS.
i thought of those other things when he left.
hes not a drug addict
hes not in TF
he hasnt been kicked outta home
he is still a god
hes not grappling with his mind re TF
THATS ALL - I REALLY WANTED TO SHARE THAT

p.s. your kids leaving home is not in the rulebook of parenthood. its a real biggie