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In Reply to: New Beginings posted by Bill on September 25, 2006 at 05:25:49:
"What sort of changes must be made with the family before ex-members could trust the family again?"
The group is founded on a cornerstone of lies, deceptions and falsehoods. What they decribe as "layers of truth" when they give babes milky stuff and then strong meat later, is using deception to trick converts into getting into something without being properly informed. How they see themselves as elite and in the center of God's will doing his highest is self-aggrandizement and pure self-delusion. Berg's mother, who created Berg the prophet with her famous warning prophecy, was a self-deluding liar who told a tale of a miracle healing that never happened, according to people who were there and knew. What the group actually believes now, is that child-adult sex is not inherently wrong, but just something that is wrong according to man's laws. I could go on and on, but the point is nothing about the group is good. It is rotten down to its core principals, so the only changes that will suffice are the complete cessation of the group as a group.
"Would you return to the family if it was truly reformed?"
No! See above answer. It can never be truly reformed.
"What do you miss about life in the family?"
Friendships (or the illusion that they were special and genuine) with people who were trapped like myself, who showed me sincere kindness. But this is like asking a holocaust survivor what they miss about the concentration camps - even they could tell you they miss some friends they met who helped them in some way. Bad question, wrong question to ask, in my opinion, since I am of my persuasion.
"Is it hard to trust your men won't cheat on you after they shared in the family?"
When I first got out, for a few months I was hurting my wife by "sharing" with some other women I'd met, believing that since she was an FFer and we weren't supposed to believe in jealousy, she wouldn't mind at all. Well, even though she didn't confront me with her feelings, I found out it didn't really work that way, and found out how she really felt inside. Since we were no longer living a lie or in an environment that supported living a lie, I learned pretty soon how to respect relationships, and about the special bond that two people can have when they are exclusive to each other. Speaking for myself, I got rid of the idea that infidelity was alright. It simply isn't.
"I know men that left the family and most are cheaters."
Interesting. What abot the women?
