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In Reply to: Re: Interesting Gen-X article posted by susie on September 19, 2006 at 00:20:58:
I can't answer that in a general manner because some parents did protect their kids and did get them out whether they thought they were wrong for doing so (in the context of Family-Thought).
I think it would be normal to blame parents because the reality is that the angry youth are justifiably angry that their parents neglected or did not prevent abuse REGARDLESS of the reasons "why".
I don't think that the reasons "why" help at all when a youth is coming to terms with their losses because of having been raised in the Family.
What I am thinking about in what I am posting about at this time is the idea that people that joined the family as youth were Mansonian like drug crazed hippies who had no conscience and that as Berg later tried to blame them, were the cause for what went awry with the Family.
Berg did not care who was harmed as long as his ass was covered.
I think a person's character is known more by how they were before and after the family than while in it. It is the phenomena of cult life that people adopt another persona, the cult persona with their new name or set of values.
What I am talking about is completely separate from the advances being made by SG who are doing interviews and exposing the reality of how their lives were within the family.
It is about the losses incurred by FG as well as SG. I think the most damaging thing that happened to my family were the separations. I did get out before camps and such. I felt wrong when I got out, at first and also very afraid that some horrible thing might happen to us because of my having left. My children suffered and I suffered from fallout resulting from separations and "THE FAMILY" values. Or lack of them. I was their parent and I was responsible for swallowing lies but if I did it knowingly or ignorantly does not change their losses. OR mine.
I know that I would love to see as many people as possible when their parents are out of the Family, be encouraged to connect if they desire it. Most do.
I think that a youth dealing with a parent who is still in the family is like a parent dealing with a youth who is on methamphetamines.
That parent is dealing with the DRUG and it's hold on the youth and not with their child. The child needs to detoxify and get away from the drug long enough to get back to their real self. I think the same thing needs to happen for people leaving the cult. They need time to be away to start thinking rationally and to realize how wrong and destructive it all was.
I think the collective damage done to both generations involved in the Family either by choice or by being born in is horrific.
I am glad anytime I hear of parents that are reconciling with their children. A parent in the family cannot do that with their child that is not in because they are not in their right mind. They may never be. Should they get out they will get to deal with all the damage, the damages of what they have suffered and what they have allowed their children to have suffered. I wouldn't wish that hell on anyone.
I haven't posted here for awhile and I may be lost as far as how any given thread started. Nothing I am saying is with the intention of invalidating any pain any person born or raised in the Family has experienced.
At the same time, I am realizing how destructive cults like the family are to people in general.
