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In Reply to: Re: Time to put one thing to rest posted by Jim LaMattery on December 09, 2005 at 11:13:40:
There are too many factors to consider regarding time relevancy, and it is most certainly not up to anyone to judge whether someone else stayed in for too long after such and such a point, because that point can be dissected to bits. Anyone here can argue that someone else, including you, stayed in too long and should have known better - but that would be taking a cheap shot. Time relevancy as a challenge about who is more/less responsible is irrelevant in this regard, and off limits as a topic of debate on this site.
Some people like James Penn stayed in for decades and then came out and dealt severe blows to TF in exposing them. Some people stayed in because they could not leave or they would risk losing their children. I know people who wanted to leave but were so weakened they could not face the prospects of re-entering a world where they burned their bridges and alienated their folks by "spoiling Egypt." Everyone has their own turning point, and then thier own story about what they did to get their act together to leave.
Unless we are criminals and need to answer to the law first, as survivors our first duty is to ourselves and our loved ones - to survive and to succeed in life despite what the cult tried to take away from us. It is up to each individual to be able to examine him/herself and to be able to live with him/herself for what he/she has done. It is most definitely not for anyone here to add to their trauma with judgemental taunts/remarks about their amount of time in the cult or their time period in the cult.
Many, myself included, appreciate your efforts with the FBI to bring known criminals to justice. There are plenty of people who share the same path and key as you outlined, and are doing their part. Thing is, many of them also know how to show "support, empathy, and understanding" while doing it, without causing collateral damage.
You are of course free to "continue to ask for substantition when someone makes a statement about" you, but kindly within the guidelines as laid out, and with respect to the rules in my initiaing post in this thread.
Thanks.
