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In Reply to: THE ANSWER posted by WHAT JIM SHOULD DO on December 08, 2005 at 04:44:48:
What you seem to be implying is that I should read the minds of anyone who disagrees with me, or anyone who claims I have offended them, and then clearly understand their position. But I believe that the accuser can articulate their position better than I can. For example, someone says, "You hurt me," I ask "how, when, in what way?" They answer, "well you should know, go figure it out."
In the case of a child who has been abused by a parent, a child who cannot articulate what happened to them, or is revictimized in recounting the story to the adult, I believe that this may be an appropriate position to take.- In other words, "Mom, Dad, please figure out that the abuse you did to me is the reason I'm hurting." But here, on this board, these exchanges are between adults in electronic posts. I did not abuse anyone in these, or previous posts, although my asking questions about a person's involvement in the widespread child sexual and physical abuse, that I am finding ran rampant in TFI, may feel horrible to them. It would make me feel terrible to be asked such a question if I was in any way culpable in the abuse. Nevertheless, these types of questions are being asked, and not only be myself. The initial posts in "cyberspace" were necessary for my compiling a omplaint to the FBI, and the IRS. So I can understand that these questions don't make the people I've asked them of very comfortable. The posters may feel revictimized by the process of articulating answers to some of these questions. I can sympathize with that, but I cannot sympathize with arbitrary claims that some of the posters have made when they purport to speak for others, and then, refuse to clearly articulate their claims. These arbitrary claims come in the form of words such as "pushy," "agenda," "master plan," etc.
Maybe this whole discussion boils down to the fact that I am asking questions that most people don't want to answer. Some have even suggested that I learn a better way to ask them. So, I am listening, how would you ask these folks if they ever abused my, or their own, children? How would you ask them if they would be willing to publically state such, so that their children didn't have to file all the criminal/civil complaints, stand up in the media, etc.? How would you ask them why they haven't provided affidavits to the FBI, and IRS with specifics as to abuse, money transfer, life in TFI, etc.-information that would substantiate the claims of their children?
These are tough questions to ask. I don't claim that I have the best way to ask them in order to get clear-cut and appropriate answers. How would you, "The Answer," ask such questions?
