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In Reply to: thank you posted by Acheick on January 09, 2005 at 17:27:44:
I don't think realistically we can expect a big coorperative effort between SGs and FGs in fighting the Family. Not a planned effort, anyway, but the the thing is it does happen a fair amount in person-to-person situations that I'm aware of, and also recently on the Wikipedia project. I'd say it's not wise to try to force things. If it happens it happens.
I think for now most of us will have to be satisfied with making peace with and having the love of our own children, which you, MG, Jo and others have accomplished. If your own children who have more right to blame you for failing them then anyone else have fully forgiven you and your relationship has been restored, then you have accomplished something that most FG parents have not. Even if the rift between SGs and FGs never heals, you have at least done what counts for your own children.
Meanwhile, let's really empathize with the SGs. The suicides continue, as Jules pointed out, and if we can't understand how much pain that represents, then we're simply not trying. Each of us has to come to terms and come to an understanding of our own involvement in causing that, and Jules herself has said that someone like Jo or GentlerKinder (I can't remember which) was simply not as guilty as others. Maybe you fit in that category too.
I appreciate you putting your comment about Carol in a little more context, though I think most of us have been guilty of what you describe, posting under other names, at some point and in some situations. When you first mentioned Carol I was really upset, since you had written not one but two "Goodbye" letters, in which Carol was villified in great detail and I simply couldn't believe that the fires of anger were still smouldering and you were still not letting go.
I realize Carol has offended you, but she was villified a great deal more than she merited in a very public and ongoing campaign, and that doesn't sit right with me, especially when I do not agree that she was the cause of all the problems on the board. She was not. At any rate, Carol has chosen not to come to the boards so I see an continued mentioning her as both unfair and unnecessary.
