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In Reply to: Re: "What good has happened here?" posted by Roger (coordinator) on January 07, 2005 at 14:45:49:
This is only my opinion, but I for one also feel like it seems okay for some chosen people to rant here to the point of accusing "you people" (FG's in general) of all the problems that have occurred to SG's and continues to happen. I think that it is wrong to not make a comment to Jules' post which rages at most FGs as has often been the case for abuses she and others suffered most likely not at all at the hands of the majority of ex FG that post or have ever posted here. I think also that many ex members, including Jules AND FGs, have hurts they need to talk about and feelings of anger towards what happened to them in the Family which they need to talk about at ex-member boards. It seems that many SG do not realize that FG were victims first of the Family and now we are survivors. Instead we are categorized as stupid, mansonian type freaks that joined a sex cult. It just isn't so. Neither is there a time limit on healing. We have had casualties too, via members with illness, depression, PTSD, suicide, etc and frankly I think the battle rages on because it has not been fully processed. FG have horrible losses in that they were often unwillingly separated from children or allowed things due to making the better of bad choices available. After getting out they have these additional wounds to heal and to work through. I would say many FG have made leaps and bounds to restore their families and thier own lives and deserve every bit of help they can get for it. Certainly SG do also.
Haven't we all hurt enough?
It does not seem fair to tell Acheick that she is basically being inappropriate; that she has found her place at a prayer board, that she shouldn't speak about what has hurt her and at the same time to allow an ex- member that has her own board with generalized hatred for most FG to come here and rant at people described by her board as 'another place where older FG hang out' or whatever it is described as with a clear demeaning manner.
If this site were solely for education and articles and research and exposure of the family then these boards would not be such a big part of it.
Much can be accomplished by supporting each other but frankly it looks like this started with yet another corrective rant from someone who seems to be accepted to judge and flame others and then FGs that respond are shut down if they are not self-flaggelating.
