different pathologies

It seems to me that the pathology of exmembers differs a lot according to many factors. First and foremost seems to be the guilt factor. How long did it take you to leave? Were your kids exploited by you or you partner? Did you ignore abuse to yours or others children? How long did you stay in the Family? I think these questions determine in a big way how offended people are by certain threads and comments and how they react to others on this board. Does anyone else think about these factors?