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In Reply to: Re: critical thanks kindagentler posted by matt on May 31, 2004 at 12:35:04:
Don't give up seeking help. You deserve it and it will be worth it. The good news is that after the family you can find and work with whoever FITS for you. Someone that you can develop some trust with and sometimes that may take going thru a number of people before you find one who fits.
I took Prozac too for some time and it helped a lot for awhile and then quit working. And I just quit taking it and got into a very deep depression. Now I take Lexapro and it works, don't need much and it has not had any side effects for me. I have a therapist who is a friend as well as a therapist. That is what works best for me. Sometimes a therapist will wait until you bring something up because they don't want to push a person. It is kinda like popping an unripe pimple, you can just make it more sore. (sorry for the gory example).
Trust is really important anyway before you start to work with someone and after the family that takes awhile to build up. Usually a therapist will work first with helping you stabilize aspects of your life. Like aid you in seeking assistance with childcare, or other available services to alleviate some of your stress. I hope you will keep seeking support because you deserve to feel better.
sometimes it helps to just take one little step at a time, like reaching out and making some calls to places that might have help available and familiarity with domestic violence. Surprizingly, Women's centers are often full of references for people that have been abused whether they are men or women.
I know it takes energy, and energy is real low when depressed.
Another suggestion, make a point out of having fresh clean sheets on your bed, and something comfortable to you, like iced tea or hot chocolate, but not alcohol. And maybe a book that is interesting but not heavy in content. If you are prone to writing or doing art, paint a picture or write a few lines.
A Women's center may have resources that can help you find some assistance with your needs and your children. You are doing so much.
I can remember times when I would just lay down on the bed and fall asleep with my clothes on, on top of the covers, no shower.
Well, when I made myself shower, put on something comfortable and maybe put on some relaxing music, even when I could just barely do it, it did make me feel a bit better.
Self care is hard when you are clinically depressed. The alcohol is a concern too. Perhaps there is an anti-anxiety medication that could be put in its place. Lexapro has elements that address depression and anxiety. BUT without feeling drugged up. I hope you get some help and you can always refer a prospective therapist to this site to read the articles and that helps them understand some of where you are coming from without having to start opening all your wounds to someone you are not yet knowing well.
