I guess it's different for everyone.

I guess everyones experience with leaving TF is different. I don't know if my personal experience can be of help to anyone but maybe. I first joined in 1975. I won't get into where I was and so forth and so on. I will say that for many years we were on our own, which in hind siite was a blessing. Maybe we had less control and made some of our own decisions. We were FMers until Feb. 2003 when we finally decided this is too weird. Of course we wen through what hapenns to us now that we were stepping out of the most perfect group of Chistians in the universe. We joined a church. Being unfamiliar with churches we went to a denomination of the churches we inaved back in the 80's. "Inavade the churches" In other words deceive them into thinking your not a cult and take em for whatevere they'll give you. Well in the church we found the kindest people and rediscovered the Word. The real word.We found that if we rejected TF and all it stood for, to the point taht they are not even Christian but just one of the many New Age Religions, that we have no regrets or feelings of loss. For sure we were brainwashed zombies, believing stuff that when we look back on it is so incredibelly rediculous it's belly slap funny. We can only look at all the years that we spent in a cult as not years wasted but as years we have an incredible story about. It's become part of our testimony. And besides I now speak Spanish and Italian and my wife speaks Spanish and English. Admitting we were wrong really wrong for almost 30 years helps. There's great freedom in admitting mistakes, not dwelling in them. We spent 30years in a cult and nothing is going to change that. Probably one of the biggest things that helped is is watching Joyce Meyer. Her show now Living Everday Life is about that. She was a houswife that became an evangelist. She was sexually abused by her father when she was young, and basically lived a crappy life. She has some really life building lessons to teach. What is important is today and using the past as lessons. I guess I do have an advantage I had a job with the same company for 17 years. I started at the bottom and pretty got trained and worked my way up. I was terminated because of being on disabilty too long. I've been on treatment hep. c since Sept. and will finish in Aug. That has been a learning experience in itself. I hope to start Bible College in Sept. Especially if I win the $100,000 prize for my Power of Purpose Essay I wrote. Please remember "Your Past is not Your Potential"