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In Reply to: Re: You mean about Berg and the Family? posted by Jesse (rockon) on April 01, 2004 at 11:45:40:
Jesse(rockon), I'm just curious do I know you? I got manipulated in a similar manner to marry my first wife at TSC...what a disaster!!! You never think about the lasting effects on relationships like that, that they last a lifetime. I had two children by her and she was smart enough to leave the COG early on and she took the kids with her and disappeared for 17 years. Boy, did that hurt, I walked around for 17 years with a big hole in my heart. I, finally, found them about 12 years ago. It has not been easy getting a relationship going with them (the kids) after all these years. I, too, have a grandchild by the first daughter and they still live at the Mother's (ex-wife)house and regardless to say, I don't even speak to them unless I reach them on their cell phone in order to prevent any commotions.
In my own opinion, Jesse, and I say this as a friend. You need to set up healthier boundaries for yourself espicially as far as your exwife goes. You seem like too nice of a guy and you probably feel like you get walked all over by them. I don't know if this is the case or not and forgive me if I'm mistaken.
I know I have been a victim of unhealthy boundaries for years. I let people walk all over me and this was the result of the COG indoctrination which constantly beat me up. I know the feelings of anger that you have because of it.
If you can get the books that I mentioned to you and apply them to your life, it will help immensely. It's time to get healed!!
"boundaries" "safe people".
