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In Reply to: Re: Since you're a guy & your stalker is a woman posted by anovagrrl on March 17, 2004 at 11:00:36:
Are you married? If so, I'd suggest telling your wife what is happening so that if anything happens, your wife will know the score ahead of time. If you regularly meet this woman in your workplace, it may not be so easy to enforce a 100-yard restraining order.
If this lady is mentally unbalance or obsessed, be sure that she will do things to try to be alone with you. I know of women who began undressing in a friend's office. (He was a psychiatrist, she was a patient.) He told her to put her clothes back on or he'd call the police.
Remember that you're a guy and might be tempted. It's not worth it to your marriage and kids to allow yourself to be enticed into a little fling with a mental case, no matter how sexy or beautful she is, or how much her stalking appeals to a male need to be viewed as a desirable stud.
Another reason to tell your wife is that this stalker may try to do a "Joseph" on you. Like Potiphar's wife, if she can't get you to be with her, she may raise false accusations against you, that you were hitting on her. But if your wife knows what's up ahead of time, this willnot wreck your marriage.
And yes, tell the police. A woman attracted to a man who doesn't change his clothes for a week and walks around picking his nose and farting is clearly deranged. You don't need that.
