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In Reply to: Re: internet chat as a forum for justice.. posted by Albatross on February 17, 2004 at 18:52:36:
daniel, from the perspective of many of your generation, i would agree that great harm was done by adults making extremely poor choices, and in some cases, premeditated abuse. from your perspective, i can see whether this harm was the result of conscious evil, irresponsible behavior, mind control, misplaced religious zeal, or the devil made me do it, it really doesn't matter. it happened.
personally, i am not sure how to explore the why's and wherefor's in a medium that is public, and therefore accessible to sg's. if our generation feels the need to search our hearts and explore what happened, both to come to terms w/ our past, as well as to find some context in which to build a future, than it is not hard to see how this may be veiwed as a selfserving copout by some in your generation. i honestly don't believe that too many fg's who are still visiting sites such as this, as well as reading posts on moving on, despite the shame they cast upon us, in an attempt to go forward in as responsible a way as possible, well, i don't think copping out is the motive. if so, why even come? there is always something on cable, and there is no four oz. per week quota in place.it would seem, despite our disagreements and various perspectives, some sense of resposibility is at work somewhere. admitedly, we may not all be in positions to make any huge contributions to the cause, our resumes being what they are. but i think a sense of concern, and desire to at least root for you guys, is strong.most still have the immediate responsibilties of kids at home (by the time our last one gaduates hs we will have been parenting minor children for 37 years..) And struggling w/ our own existential issues, midlife crises, menopause, marraige issues, irs 1040's, guilty consciences, and slowly deteriorating physical conditions.but hey, obviously, that is our problem.
personally, the way you guys hash out what seems to be the best way for you to proceed is clearly not really my business.i think it is cool that there is a variety of veiwpoints w/in your discussion. i may feel more of a pull towards some efforts than others, and have an opinion about paths to healing, but it is just an opinion, and one largely influenced by research and insights far from original w/ me. and i realize it matters little to anyone anyway.
but doesn't it seem appropriate for fg's who share much common experience, in attempting to understand , move on, make amends as able, etc. try to examine these issues? personally, i don't think the thrust of the conversation is directed at seeking an excuse slip from you guys. i don't think those who feel that way can stomach things in this neck of the woods for very long at all.
just my opinion. wish you peace, and health.
