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In Reply to: Re: Sara D (nanny from hell) posted by ssam on February 16, 2004 at 23:40:54:
Oh well, until he learns guitar and joins a cause to recruit members into, he needs something, and I can see him not only learning the construction industry, but owning his own company where he can hire slave laboroers like you (jk) to do his dirty work - hee hee.
I agree, the issues are complex and I feel that the individuals involved in the abuses that took place, both the abused and the abusers, are the ones to work it out. I believe that the laws and the resources are in place for that to happen and have only to be accessed.
"The defense in the true story, "A Death in White Bear Lake" argued that the little boy's violent death was carried over from the adoptive mother's own childhood abuse: beatings in the barn, violent alcoholic father's sexual abuse of her, witness to her mother repeatedly being beaten, etc.... The adoptive mother said that she, 'raised the boy the way that she and her siblings had been raised and that she, and they, turned out ok.' Trouble was, 'ok' in her case, was extreme religious Catholicism and a Victor camp home environment meaning: enforced rosary and scripture memorization, beatings for simple things like coat hangers criss-crossed in the closet, closepins on the penis, scalding, prescription drug abuse, and finally, among many other things, a possible obsessed finger up the rectum perforating the intestine and the resultant, excrutiatingly painful death from infection covered up by a 'fall down the stairs.'
The question of the adoptive mother's childhood and it's effect on her character evolved from a matter of mere curiosity to one of legal import, her attorney playing the metal illness card. Nevertheless, she was found guilty and sent to jail. I feel the father should have been too - for the sins of the father's.
I don't think that Sara's childhood family environment, whatever it was that drive her into the arms of the Cog, and her Cog family environment are going to stand in a court of law. About the only thing that will go well for her is if Davidito or her own kids, for example, choose to forgive and not bring her to trial.
I personally don't have any stones to throw at Sara. I was just as hard boiled and hypocritically selfrighteous over obedience in the little things with my kids as she was with hers. It took years and coming out the Family for me to come to terms with that. I feel sorry for her. I feel sorry for you. I feel sorry for me, as well as for everybody for that matter. We were all victims, imo. As for insight, delivery, and a genuine repentance from all concerned, only time will tell.
