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In Reply to: You can' posted by Jane on February 07, 2004 at 19:12:01:
You just don't have to say something just because you can.
Sometimes it's not your place to say it. Sometimes it's not going to help. Sometimes it's not a good time. Sometimes, it doesn't need to be heard. Sometimes the moment is gone. Sometimes, your baby grows up and needs space to be an adult. Sometimes the reconciliation and dialog you've been working for has already gained critical mass.
I apologize if I misunderstood you. It's hard to tell without tone and body language, what you mean. Also, I would like to make clear a certain point that can also be missed due to these limitations: there ARE things going on behind the scenes, as in emails exchanged which we're not at liberty to share; or things which happened which weren't even brought up by anyone in public so far, but which are factors in determining our response. This is what I mean by things going on which give us a different picture. What you see on the boards is not all there is. And if we are not sharing this, it's actually not for our sake, but thanks to our scruples and sense of principals.
BTW, what has all this got to do with your marriage and your short time in the COG, and your success?
