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In Reply to: Re: recent days posted by Jane on February 07, 2004 at 06:49:25:
You know, I think we should stay out of something that is between other people, and let people have their own reactions in their own time. This eagerness on your part to steer things, can backfire in this sensitive situation. Unless you wrote to Grant asking him to sue us, neither you nor Joseph are a legitmate negotiating party in this matter - this is something that has to be settled between Anneke and exFamily.org.
You wrote only two sentences. The first one was a good encouragement, in support of your friend. I can appreciate that.
The second one, is like a declaration that you are satisfied and therefore you see no reason anyone else shouldn't also be. It is also a loaded comment, because you are implying that if we don't accept the apology we are not big enough to do it. You use the word "hope," but it is also like an admonishment for us to make a statement that we do accept it.
Maybe you think I am over sensitive, reading into things, and this is overdone, but that is my experience of the second sentence, so it is real to me. In any case, forgive me if I offend you, but I'd like to ask for your understanding, to give us a little space to work this out, without anymore meddling or suggestions, or declarations, from either you or Joseph. If you let things run their course, they stand a really good chance of getting sorted out quickly and painlessly. Please trust me on that one, if you somehow can find it in you to.
As I mentioned to Joseph, not everything you see on the boards is what you get. We are privy to communications and exchanges behind the scenes, that maybe don't make us see things the same way other people who are just reading the boards might see it.
Also, I just got back, and found these long posts and reactions by other coordinators. They aren't mine. I can completely understand what they are asking, and why they are asking it, but it is not my particular reaction. We don't get together and decide on an identical united reaction.
If I may say so, (and please, I ask for space and understanding on this one) it is not so much Anneke which I personally find offensive - I am going to post something in response to her - it is the meddling from you, Joseph and other proxies, that has really screwed it up for me. I get so busy reacting to you guys, I don't get a chance to figure out for myself, what my own reaction really is. The process takes time. Let it be!
