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In Reply to: excuse me? posted by Acheick on February 06, 2004 at 20:30:20:
Here is the quote:
"The argument is frequently made that innocent Family members who do good work in the field will be hurt by anything that hurts FCF, their funding agent. The logic, as I hear it, goes like this: >So-and-so does such good work for the Lord that s/he shouldn't be held responsible for maintaining a financial association with individuals who are guilty of crimes against humanity.<"
Is that not the implication? If it isn't then I am sorry for having mis-read it. This all goes back to the fact that I am more interested in seeing exers get help towards their own recovery than in condemning them altogether as if there needs to be some sort of tribunal held. But then, all of this is vague for some posters like me because I don't know what it is all about.
There was a time that I was gung ho on the "dismantling the family" platform. But I have outgrown that. I watched a film called "The Boys From Brazil" and there was this Nazi hunter who pursues clones of Hitler to destroy them. The boys are all around 13. He ends up not wanting to become what he is destroying and calls off the assassination of the last child.
I am curious about what some people do that involve themselves in the family to the extent of having friendships with top leaders. What is the draw for that? Is it that it gives a sense of importance on a level that could not be acheived within the family? I don't know. After all, some of the same people who have those associations might have been burnouts with nothing to show for their lives had they stayed in the family. I think discussions along the lines of dialogue and questioning each other as long as both parties are up to it is a great step in working towards recovery from the family. And like you or someone has said, that person has not come here to talk about it. One reason that I believe there is such a lack of trust is that we were taught betrayal in the family. We were taught to tell on others, and on ourselves. And outside of the family, sometimes the same sorts of things can happen. That and also that some people are very guarded and deny what pretty much everyone knows. Then you can't trust THAT person. Dialogue could help greatly but it can't happen if either side gets too confrontational. (I am talking about between exers at various stages of recovery here.)
Sometimes I picture us adults like little kids except there is one major difference. Little kids can make up and be over things in a day. Adults hold grudges forever.
