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To Sam
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I will say this though, a key issue in dialogue with or support for people with differing opinions is respect for the individual as a person. It has been wonderful to me to see the growth in the level of respect and comprehension of our viewpoints from many FG former members and many of our parents. A sincere thank you to those people who do understand our need for self-determination and empowerment. I can only speak for myself here, but I don’t want to be rescued or preached at, however I do greatly appreciate support.
2. My life is mine
Sam you said: “Well, Julia, if your parents have abused you, and you want to own that story, if I find out about it, I own that story too.” Think about that Sam. Can you perhaps understand why when you ask me for personal information it is not forthcoming?
You do not own my story or any part of my life. Nor do my parents, or the Family or anyone else. I own it. No one can tell me to be silent, or that I must reveal everything about myself. I have the power to decide what I say and do and what I do not. Because of this I have power over my experiences and my past. That is what being free from the tyranny I grew up with is to me.
3. Young people who testified in court cases
You are right in that it was the young people testifying in the British case that turned the tide. Why? Because they simply told what happened to them. Nothing is more powerful. The young people that spoke out were incredibly courageous, and they have done a great service to the children still in the Family by refusing to be silent about what happened to them.
The emotional cost of doing that alone however, is extremely high. Sam, I have seen first hand the way you have pushed for young people to speak to the media and to give you information. Look at your own words here in the last couple of days. I believe the individual comes first and we have to take care of ourselves first of all, not sacrifice ourselves for a “cause”. The story must never overshadow the person.
4. Your role in France
Sam I know you were involved in France because you told me yourself. You called me and talked to my sister, who was taken in the raid there, and told her as well.
Sam, I’m sorry that you are so upset. I understand that it’s not easy to answer questions like this about something that you have been so passionately involved with for so long. However, I don’t think anyone is trying to attack you personally, I know I am not.
Jules
