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In Reply to: Re: How's your sex life? posted by female respondent on July 20, 2003 at 14:06:57:
(1) Are you and FG or born into TF?
FG
(2) How long have you been out?
Since the early 90s.
(3) How has your attitude toward sex changed since leaving (if at all)?
I have stayed monagamous with my wife & know how sleeping around causes pain to lots of people, myself, my parnter, children involved.
(4) Did you consider your sex life healthy and normal while you were in TF?
It was just something I needed. It was often awkward sharing with parnters who really didn't want to be there. They weren't sharing under duress, but it was just a job for them, like weeding the garden or washing dishes.
(5) How do you view your sex life in TF now that you have left?
I see the above even more clearly. Sharing schedules (or appointments as they were later called) were unnatural, forced and like the poster above says, certainly not 'free sex'.
(6) What difficulties (if any) did you experience with what TF taught or enforced regarding sex?
In a supposed equal society, I felt less-than-equal or desirable because the leader with clout, the pushy & insistent brothers, always got the dates they wanted & I was dependent on a someone being assigned to me.
(7) What difficulties (if any) have you experienced since leaving as a result of what TF taught or enforced regarding sex.
Having slept with a lot of different women over the years it's harder to keep focused on my wife now, tho I've never cheated on her.
(8) Was sex ever part of the motivation (be honest!) for your joining or staying in TF?
No. Not with the sex I got.
(9) Did you have any concerns that you would not be able to enjoy the sexual freedoms you had in TF if you left?
Leadership told me I'd never have sex again unless I shopped around in bars, which was a total lie. I didn't believe that. I married after leaving & sex has been good, plus the knowledge that we're faithful to each other brings peace.
