I'm safely out - but what about old friends still in?

Well, I survived and came out quite a few years ago - only minor scars that heal with time.

But what I feel incredible guilt about is old friends that I knew before I joined, that also joined - most likely as a result of my influence. These friends are still in (as far as I can make out). What about them? If I was (partly) responsible for them finding TF and joining, how much responsibility do I have to them now?

Over the years since I left, I have had some contact with them - usually as a result of them trying to raise funds for their "work", I'd get sent a newsletter with the usual pleas for money, and full of the usual Family language. Now my experience has been that since leaving TF I have become very cynical of all religions and religious doublespeak (thats my view, I respect others rights to their religious beliefs and do not intend to offend anyone here). When I bluntly told my friend to 'cut the crap' - and tell me what he was really thinking, feeling, experiencing, and when it became obvious I wasn't going to support him and his family, I got a metaphorical 'up yours!' and haven't heard from him since.

My friend and I (and incidently another old friend in the same situation) go back a long way - we went through a lot of growing up together during our school years. I so do want to reach out to them, but don't know where to begin - I'm not sure if they are still in, or where they are. His real family has moved on so I can't contact him through that source.

Has anyone else had guilt feelings like mine? How can these feelings be dealt with? Just what is my responsibilities to my old friends? Should I even bother to feel guilty?

... so many questions! *grin*