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Re: Questions FGs need to ask themselves

Posted by Donny on January 14, 2003 at 18:08:27

In Reply to: Re: Questions FGs need to ask themselves posted by Goth (reposted) on January 14, 2003 at 17:50:04:

I'll see if I can manage to make an intelligent statement without once again putting my foot in my mouth. Here goes. First of all, excellent questions and very important to ask.

I think we all agree that if the Family would genuinely disband they'd be doing their members, us and the whole world a favor, and I think it's fair to say that a lot of us would very much like to see this happen. But can it realistically be brought about? The answer is yes, but perhaps at great cost to quite a number of individuals.

If, for example, a massive court case was brought against the Family, that would probably do the trick, but the committment and wear and tear would probably consume dozens of people's lives. I therefore don't think it is right for anyone to advocate such a monumental step for others. If they themselves are willing to throw their own life into such a cause, that's an individual choice with a huge price tag. We don't need armchair coaches, and I admit that I have doen that in the past myself.

So, it's achievable to dismantle the Family, but is the price tag worth it? Probably not. Many people who are picking up the pieces of their lives need to be able to do that and not feel pressured to join in a massive expose whether in the legal or media arenas. Like Jules said, exers and those raised in the group honestly need to be able to take care of themselves first, without pressure to join in some huge cause.

I think there are a number of things people can do individually if they're so inclined, and it's their choice, but it has to be an individual choice. Good thoughts by Goth, that there are many things we can do to help each other and other survivors. There's a lot of positive stuff that can be done.