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In Reply to: Re: Can you write more about it? posted by Jules on January 14, 2003 at 07:27:12:
You bring a balance to our sometimes over-zealous hasty efforts to do something, make up for the damage that was done, or keep it from continuing. Also, seeing how the SGs view things is an eye opener and not always what I'm thinking about, not having had that experience.
Sometimes I wonder just what we are trying to accomplish, and is there any point. As for me and my family, we have moved on, as much as possible. None of my offspring or my spouse are even in the slightest interested to visit any exmember or current member website. I'm their laughing stock because I spend so much time here. Then I ask myself, why do I do this? And yes, we have many questions to answer for ourselves and the quest is ongoing and continuous which may explain why we are always talking and offering explanations - and I'm sorry it comes across that we are making excuses, there is no excuse for what happened to you all. I realize, you do not have those same questions. Maybe that's why I'm so involved in this because my questions have never been answered satisfactorily and I cannot process and effectively move on until they are answered.
I am not a mental health expert and I have no clue what is involved in helping children that were raised in such an environment. I really wish I knew more. I do know though, just from my limited reading, that one of the basics is to try and have some sort of either reconciliation with your former abusers or retribution - as in having them processed according to the laws of the land - I guess this depends on the severity of the abuse, was it criminal, sexual, etc. and has there been remorse, and so on. I still think of that show I saw that kind of catapulted me into this cyberworld - was it 60 minutes? Where about 10 SGAs were being interviewed and after listening to their heart-wrenching stories I thought to myself that these kids had no voice, no one to speak for them and they seemed so alone. If we can be a strength and support to any SGAs, please tell us how so we can do better. I really, really appreciate you coming to our site and so succinctly explaining your position and that of the SGAs. Thank you so much.
