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In Reply to: Re: Moving On posted by Kathy on December 15, 2002 at 18:17:01:
All these talks between you and our children, I say our children, because they are all our children. Sadly, my daughter went to Thailand to visit her father and try and reconcile her feelings about him and his dumping his whole family for another woman in the F. While she was there, she made some comments about his children and their needing help in their school work. A couple of other situations transpired and he ended up sending her and her husband a nasty email about how they were "usurping his authority" - I can't believe he said that - and told her husband that she was turning out just like her mother (me). He then went on to add insult to injury by trying to turn her grandfather against her (his big money cache). To say the least, it was awful for her. Here she tried to reconcile with him and that's how he responds. It convinces me that he is one of the most selfish individuals I have ever known. My daughter and her husband went into serious debt just so they could make that trip and spend time with her father, sister and 10 half brothers and sisters. You don't know how much I am steaming inside. But you're right, the hate is draining and one just can't keep hating people. Instead I pity them, or I try to. I don't think this guy is in denial, I think he is happy in his domain and selfishly guards it at all costs - lashing out at anyone that would threaten it. The things that the policies in the F. have produced do make my blood boil and the worse thing is that they will never see it. I think that's the hardest thing to bear.
I'm so sorry to hear about your pain and your daughter. These things will never leave us, but yes, we can do our part in reconciling and righting the wrongs that were made. Thank you, Kathy, for your sensitive and caring post.
