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In Reply to: Don't make yourself a victim now Goth posted by Passing By on December 09, 2002 at 16:02:29:
You cannot tell me that some FGAs(have said about themselves) and some SGAs here have not said "We (FGAs) were stupid" or "We chose to join". When I came to THIS board I was looking for support for myself. I don't think that is out of line to write what I do. Neither would I call it a rampage. I also have been supportive of SGAs. I think I wrote what I did when I felt very vulnerable. It was not very objective as a whole. It is NOT that I do not have empathy for SGAs, but I also have it for FGAs. And I have it for people that I hope to see get out of the family. Even though I don't personally know anyone that is still in the family. Some I have known may still be in, but they were known to me in the distant past. I have not been on this board as long as many here who came and got lots of support for themselves when dealing with the wreckage of their past. The board changes with time. Also, some people here change handles so often that I have no clue who you are. Many of you seem to know each other. I feel like there is a strong pressure to think a certain way which is in some cases degrading. It is definitely a double message to say "People keep telling you that nobody joined a cult" when a number of people, incl. one of the coords. here have directly posted that we made a choice, that she wondered how she could have been so stupid. etc. So why is it that you are so offended that I post how I feel and consider it to be a "rampage"? And are you saying it is not right to question? That there is only one true perspective? I don't think you know me at all. And I know that I don't know you. There are others that I have pre-judged according to what I have read. When I realize that they are doing lots of hard work to assist people, incl. SGAs who are leaving the fam. and they state that they hate the family, then they are doing a good service. Then there are those who act like it is a cardinal sin to have family members who are friends, when many here have blood relatives or people they were friends with that stayed in that cult. And those people want to see them get out and get help, I think. If some say burn the whole thing because people haven't left because of all the things to read (which I only found about 7-8 months ago) to me this is using the same tactics Maria does to warn against all the Vandari. So if I am a deficit to this board please suggest that I be banned. And that the purpose of the board be restated.
