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Justice vs. Revenge

Some random thoughts on the subject

Much has been discussed on this site over the last week on the subjects of justice and revenge. Before going further I’ll refer to a dictionary’s definition for both words.

Justice: ~The dispensing of that which is owing or deserved, such as a reward or punishment.~ The implementation of law through the judicial system.

Revenge: ~ The act of giving punishment or demanding atonement for a wrong.~ The desire to retaliate or punish for an offense.

I’ll define it further for the sake of this argument: Justice is the nobler of the two words. The search for justice comes from a desire to see wrongs righted, the weaker protected, and is not motivated by hate or anger. It is approached objectively. Revenge is the darker of the two words. It is often personal in nature and at times motivated by hate, wounded honor, or anger. An esoteric differentiation between the words may be to say that seeking Justice begets “good Karma” and that seeking Revenge begets “bad Karma.”

I do not believe in revenge. I see revenge as a position of weakness. The emotional component of seeking revenges often leaves the seeker frustrated, unfulfilled, and angrier still, if only because most endeavors are best undertaken with a level head. That is not to say that Justice cannot be pursued with passion.

I have heard schemes for action against the family that clearly cross the line into the extra-judicial. While I understand the motives and frustrations behind these schemes, they are the stuff that novels and prison terms are made of. I am loath to see any one of us pay that price…it would be revenge…and it would be bitter.

Any attempt at exacting Justice from the Family must take into account the effects on the innocents. That is not at all to say that we should stay our hand. It just means that we should enter into anything we do with the mind that “we must take care, lest in fighting the monster, we become the very thing we seek to destroy” (author unknown).

It was recently suggested on this site that destroying the Family should not be the goal, rather the goal should be to work towards acknowledgements and rectification of past abuses, as well as guarantees for the future. I offer my qualified agreement. It is possible to “de-claw the bear” and render the Family into what it pretends to be to outsiders, a “harmless (if unusual) Christian missionary CHURCH” with a controversial past.

As the push for justice against the Cult grows, the whole discussion of justice vs. revenge becomes academic. It is not a matter of if, so much as a matter of when. Understandably, there will be those who argue against any action against the Family.

I am sure that there are people for every spot on the “Love the family – hate the family” scale. And perhaps some people whose opinion varies day to day. I think every opinion has value, even if only for the sake of argument. I left the family to be able to exercise my right to the freedoms of speech and thought.The search for justice/ answers/apologies/rectification/ will continue. The final outcome of this endeavor may turn out to be very different from its original conception.

However it must never become anyone’s “reason for being.” It should always be a useful exercise, and never become one’s “religion.” If I ever find myself entirely consumed and taken over by this, I will step away.We were raised to be extremists. It is understandable then that many of us remain so.In the past two months that I’ve been visiting this site I’ve come across many brilliant and witty people. It has been a pleasure to read their writings, understand their positions and see my experiences played out through the eyes of others. Whether Justice comes today, tomorrow, or never, the interactions I’ve had on this site will contribute greatly to my growing and moving on process.

Daniel