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In Reply to: typical "shrink" bullshit posted by Ian on November 22, 2002 at 22:11:43:
I won't use the word "we". I speak for myself, and I know that a lot of people here will agree with me.
The reason I post on GenX is because I know I'm to blame for a lot, and I need help. I find I have a lot in common with the FGA exmember community that I've been getting to know on this board, and it's been helping to move on in my life. Some people like Goth left TF long before I did, and they weren't guilty of having "stood by" while abuse took place, I stayed in TF madness a lot longer and I'm on of those that "stood by". Nevertheless, I find that I have lots in common with Goth's experience, and things she's said have helped me. Maybe some stuff I've said has helped her.
I spend a lot of time reading MovingOn, for me it's incredibly informative. I have a daughter who posts there. I found practical solutions & help for my death-metal-guitarist-son by contacting Sarafina who set up things up so that he could work for her dad last summer, thanks to the MovingOn site. --At the time he was stuck here in Europe with us his parents, going nowhere and going down fast. Things are going a lot better for him now.
My daughter rages at me sometimes about how she was forced to grow up because of my choices and decisions ...all I know is that she's got a right to, and I listen and I accept it.
But she knows that I'm trying to rebuild the ruin I made of my life. Also she appreciates that since I left the Family I can help some to pay for her studies, and I'm going to start to help pay off the student loans she took to be able to get to where she is now, she graduates in May.
The fact is: in spite of how I stand "guilty as charged" I have a great relationship with my daughter, and 2 sons, each one us moving on in our own way.
To sum things up: I haven't found anything in the attitude of the SGAs and the MovingOn site that I find wrong. In fact something would be wrong if things were not so clear, and to the point, and so well expressed, as it is done by the ex Family young adults on MovingOn. It's one of my favorite sites, and I've been putting the Vandari logos on my desktop ...great stuff!
