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In Reply to: Re: How about an "adopt a kid" type of thing. posted by Charlie on April 22, 2002 at 09:50:51:
Her sister was a constant support, never pushing anything, just listening to my wife and acknowledging the facts, and confirming the truths. We also had the book, "The Courage to Heal" which helped even me. There's a section in there for partner's and believe me, I needed help too. We also had many of the books from the Minirth-Meiers series. They are Christian psychologists, psychiatrists and doctors with clinics throughout the States dealing with all kinds of medical and mental health dissorders. Their books thoroughly explain, in layman's terms, case histories of recovery from sexual abuse, annorexia, bulimea, recovery for kids who carry our pain, the grief process, codependency, etc... I'd recommend them to anyone, cause they deal with the whole person; physically, emotionally and spiritually. They've helped us get out of the mess we were in, and they've helped us from ever getting back into the messes we were in. Now you can't beat that!
I punched in support for partner's of survivivor's of childhood sexual abuse on search engines too, cause like I've said, I needed it. There's a world of support out there, and bulletin boards gallore, and chat lines, and you name it, for the sexually abused. Just punch it in. You probably already know that.
On a positive note, we have touched on intimacy after all the ravages of our past died down. It's been a couple of years now since we both got over our troublesome pasts and we're kinda on an outpatient status now. Actually, we've even gone past the mopping up stages, and we are well down the road of recovery, fully capable of standing on our own two feet, after all these years. HEALINGS AND MIRACLES CAN HAPPEN!
You seem to be a little warrior and I'm glad you've been able to do the things you have done to help your sister. There's good advice on how to go after the perpetrators in the book, "The Courage to Heal" explaining the fights you will be up against. Perhaps you already know that too. Anyway, God bless and keep you in your battles and on your own healing journey too.
