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In Reply to: We are accountable posted by Acheick on September 04, 2002 at 08:58:30:
When I left, I felt like a void. It took me a long time to sort out what my opinions and values and thoughts were. I knew some of what they WEREN'T. I was in a very abusive relationship for about 3 1/2 yrs as a result. Then no relationships for many years. No intimacy for yrs. Couldn't even get attached to a pet. So I deserve recovery and comfort and validation every bit as much as any SGA. Does that discount their needs? NO. It just doesn't discount mine, either. I can see the bonding and reason for SGA support and categorization, but when it comes to exclusivity, no one group or person has a corner on pain. Sometimes no cause gets helped by so much dividing and discounting one "group" from another. Personally, I don't care to label myself as "FGA". Just a survivor of a destructive cult. We are all survivors as long as we are alive. I would love to see places spring up for treatment and recovery from these situations. I think it would be more helpful not to just be family either. To me it is comparable to the holocaust. There were children and adults, mothers and fathers, gypsies and Jews, Poles and homosexuals, political and criminal prisoners of concentration camps. Many were tortured and died. Not so many survived. The survivors all have one thing in common. They did get out. One reason they got out is because sometimes they had to do things that went against their values in order to survive. I am sure that many SGAs found themselves in that position as well. When it comes to the tortures or abuse, we all have stories...
